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Celebrate Your Small Wins: The Science of Acknowledging Your Achievements
When you finally reach something you've worked hard for, how long do you actually let yourself enjoy it? If you're like most of the high-achieving women I work with, you skip right over the celebration and go straight to the next goal. Taking the time to acknowledge your wins is far more than a nice gesture; it's one of the ways you build the momentum to keep going.
What happens in your brain when you celebrate
Celebrating feels good for a reason: it's the reward that makes you want to do the work again. When you skip the moment of acknowledgment, you skip that reward too, and in my experience the next goal starts to feel like a grind instead of a pull.
Harvard Business School researcher Teresa Amabile and psychologist Steven Kramer studied nearly 12,000 daily work diaries and found that the single biggest boost to people's motivation and mood on any given day was making progress in meaningful work, even small progress. They called it the progress principle, and the key word is noticing: progress only lifts you when you register it.
Celebration and gratitude go together
In a 2003 study, psychologists Robert Emmons and Michael McCullough found that people who regularly wrote down what they were grateful for felt better about their lives and more optimistic than people who wrote about hassles or neutral events. When you celebrate a win, you're practicing a form of gratitude for your own effort and how far you've come, and the two together amplify each other.
Why it helps you reach the next goal
In a well-known study at Dominican University of California, Dr. Gail Matthews found that people who wrote down their goals, shared them with a friend and sent weekly progress updates accomplished significantly more than people who only thought about their goals. Reporting progress is a built-in moment of acknowledgment, and it kept people going.
Simple ways to acknowledge yourself
- Pause before "what's next." Before you write down the next goal, take a full minute to feel what you just did.
- Keep a wins list. At the end of each day, write three things you moved forward, however small.
- Tell someone. Share the win with a friend, a partner or a community that will celebrate with you.
- Move your body. Put on a song and take a dance break; your nervous system feels the celebration, not just your mind.
Keep exploring
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- How can morning journaling change my day?
Common questions
Why is it important to celebrate small wins?
Celebrating rewards you for the effort, which makes you want to keep going. Research on daily work diaries found that making progress in meaningful work, even small progress, was one of the strongest boosts to mood and motivation.
Why do I struggle to celebrate my achievements?
Often because of a pattern that says you're only valuable when you're producing, so the moment you arrive, you're already looking for the next thing to prove. Noticing that pattern is the first step to changing it.
What are easy ways to celebrate yourself?
Keep a daily wins list, tell someone who will celebrate with you, take a dance break, or simply pause for a minute before setting the next goal.
Sources
- Amabile, T. M., & Kramer, S. J. (2011). The power of small wins. Harvard Business Review.
- Emmons, R. A., & McCullough, M. E. (2003). Counting blessings versus burdens: an experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
- Matthews, G., Dominican University of California (n.d.). Goals research summary. Dominican University of California.
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