Part 2: Why Your Affirmations Don't Stick and What Does

A conversation with Tamara RoseApril 9, 202638 minutesOriginally aired as Divine Feminine Radio, Episode 56

Watch: Tamara Rose on why affirmations don't stick and how higher self alignment makes change last

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If you've written "I am abundant" on your mirror and still catch yourself telling a friend "I'm broke," there's a reason the affirmation hasn't stuck. This episode is about the part of alignment most people miss, and why the change only lasts when your whole energy field agrees with what you're saying.

What you'll hear

This is part two of a conversation on alignment. Part one was about aligning with your future self and taking the action, like walking to the corner store for the gallon of milk instead of meditating and waiting for it to show up on your doorstep. Here Tamara goes to the second part, aligning with your higher self, which is where most people get stuck.

Most of us live inside human limitation: there isn't enough time, there isn't enough money and I don't know how it's going to work out. When you create from that place and honor the limitation, you attract more of it. Your infinite self has all the time, money and resources, so Tamara's question is always, if this is showing up in my field now, how can it come to fruition now?

She tells the story of falling off a cliff while climbing in college, then being taken on a second date in her twenties to rappel down the side of a parking structure. She was terrified of heights, and she started with one floor, then two, then three, until she was rappelling from the top. She could have said "I'm afraid of heights" and let that decide who she was.

The "I Am" presence

Tamara draws on the book series Life and Teachings of the Masters of the Far East, which describes the "I am" in each of us as the door the life power comes through. You don't have to be religious or spiritual to get it; whatever you put after "I am" activates an energy field, with every thought, word and sentence, so the work is becoming aware of what you're actually saying.

Why your affirmations aren't working

People put "I am wealthy" on a sticky note on their computer and their phone, then go out with friends and say "I'm broke." Now you're activating two different energy fields, and source energy doesn't know which one you want. If a belief like "I'm not good enough" is running underneath, the affirmation and the belief sit at two different frequencies that never touch, and saying the words alone becomes spiritual bypassing, a pretty layer over what you haven't looked at. We have to clear the whole energy field, and then "I'm abundant" can actually land.

To train yourself in abundance, start looking for where it already is. You don't worry about running out of air, or the road ending while you drive, so begin there, and take "I don't have" out of your vocabulary. Want to go further? Read why you keep repeating the same pattern.

Abundance without spiritual bypassing

Abundance doesn't mean ignoring what's real, because you're part of the whole energy field too. With a low snowpack and a water shortage in Colorado, Tamara walks through three steps: become aware of how resources are actually used (clothing manufacturing, cattle feed and cheese take enormous amounts of water), live in gratitude for the rain and snow instead of complaining about winter, and believe that together we can change it.

Future self vs. higher self

Your future self only works from what your brain already knows and what you've experienced before, while your higher self sees you as an infinite creator who can even affect the weather. How powerful you believe you are matters as much as what you're aligning with; if you don't believe you could change the weather, do you believe you could have the million dollars? Start noticing and accepting the magic that happens around you, and it expands.

Her homework is to stop saying "I don't know." It's an "I am" statement, and for people who are natural knowers it tells your intuition to switch off. Practice your discernment, and choose the "I am" statements that grow you over the ones that keep you small.