Slow Down to Speed Up: Why Hustle Is Blocking Your Bigger Results

A conversation with Tamara RoseJanuary 27, 202639 minutesOriginally aired as Divine Feminine Radio, Episode 51

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If you're pushing on every front and the results still come in small steps, the pushing may be part of what's keeping the bigger result away. This episode is about slowing down, staying open to receiving and becoming the person your next result belongs to.

What you'll hear

Tamara shares what she has been gathering evidence for over the last 10 to 15 years: when you're aligned and open to receiving, more comes to you than hustle ever produced. She walks through a car repair that resolved itself while she stayed calm, a real estate client who leapfrogged her own results, and the beliefs that quietly block what's already on its way to you.

Why "as slow as possible" beats urgency

A few months after her Mercedes went out of warranty, the engine started failing, and the first quote was $12,000. Tamara didn't panic. She held two things at once, that it was all working out in her favor and that she was open to receiving, and she looked at what was actually in front of her: a loaner car, the holidays coming and nobody asking her to decide. So she gathered other quotes, called the manufacturer's goodwill line and even test drove new cars, while the quote dropped to $10,000 and then $7,000. About a month in, the manufacturer issued a warranty extension for that exact issue, and the whole repair was covered.

None of her actions produced that result; they kept her options open while the answer came from somewhere she couldn't see. As she puts it, "Nobody's really pushing me, so why would I push it?" That's the as slow as possible principle. When the evidence around you shows no urgency, the urgency is coming from ego, and slowing down leaves room for a better outcome to show up.

How to tell anxiety from intuition

For most people, angst shows up first: I need a car, how am I going to get around, I have to fix this right now. Tamara calls the ability to discern what you're anxious about, and what is actually presenting itself, one of the biggest muscles you can build in your growth, and 15 years of meditation is how she built hers. She even noticed that a new car had been on her list for the year, so the breakdown was partly her own creation. Intuition is the guidance; your judgments, your have-tos and the voice saying get it done now are something else, and when you follow intuition instead, things move more quickly and easily.

Become the person before the result

A real estate client came to Tamara with a largest closing of $700,000 and a plan to climb slowly, maybe $800,000 next, then $900,000. Within about eight months she closed a $5 million deal. The work was asking who she would be as a multimillion dollar agent and then aligning with that in her personal life, where she lived, how she dressed and how she bought a car when hers broke down, and in her business, starting with what she loved about the homes she sold. Many people align the personal side and miss the business side.

This is the Be-Do-Have formula. We align you in the being, the thoughts, feelings and actions of your future self, with no doubt and no fear, so the doing and the having can follow. Waiting to upgrade until the money arrives runs it backwards.

Clearing beliefs that block receiving

Beliefs surface along the way, and each one is something to clear. When the client complained that front desk shifts were pointless because nobody walks in off the street and buys a house, Tamara asked, "Well, do they?" They cleared that belief, and on her first front desk shift a couple walked in looking at a $2 million property, which grew into the $5 million deal. Later she assumed the buyers would choose a more experienced co-agent over her; when she asked them, they wanted her to stay. Questioning everything, gently and every time, is how the leap happens. Want to go further? Read what energy clearing is and how it works.